Destructive Criticism
Gossip. Gossip in my opinion is considered as destructive criticism. We all do it. Some is harmless, but in other cases it can do alot of damage to a persons life. Especially in this society. They criticize you for something not knowing that they are doing the exact same thing. The only difference is that they do it in private. Or they might even sugar coat it and call it something else. Nobody is perfect. Every one of us is flawed one way or another. The way i see it is that its these little flaws that make a person beautiful. Have those people ever stopped for ONE second to think that maybe, just maybe, these so called “flaws” are in them too. They criticize other people not knowing that they criticize themselves! It’s okay for them to do it. But god forbid another person even thinks about the idea of it! I’m not talking about one thing in specific. Why do they do it? Do they criticize other people to conceal their own flaws? To have the attention diverted from them to someone else? Or is it merely jelousy? They do it not knowing that that ONE word said in front of strangers could impact the life of the person who its said about? They say that its constructive. That they make these so called “harmless” little comments so that the other person could be a better person. To improve that other person. Who are they to decide what makes a better person? Whats constructive and what isn’t? Why is it THEIR business. I say work on your own issues before you go on rambling about someone else’s. I once heard a wise man say that if everyone followed their own advice, then they wouldn’t make as much mistakes. People are slaves to reactionary customs! I have alot of respect for our customs and ancient traditions. But many people misinterpret these traditions and everything that is not the exact copy of it is rejected! They cannot think for themselves. Many of them have been raised on contradictions and double standards! They teach their children that if something is not the way they have been taught then its WRONG. Even though that one thing might not necessarily be against their religion or harmful to anyone in any way. My message here is that don’t be too opinionated. Not all criticism is good. Please try to ATLEAST think before you criticize. It may affect a person’s life. You have no idea on how words can have an impact on a person’s life.
When people run out of things to say, they think bout other people .. Ofcourse, it’s something of human nature to point out the wrongs ( or what the person considers wrong ) in other people ..
An example .. When talking to sum1 and noticing ( for example ) a zit on their face that wasnt there before, a person would be looking at it without being aware .. Instead of looking at what’s better ;p maybe that person has nice eyes or watever lol
im not talking abt those simple things .. im talking abt bigger things .. like for example.. seeing a girlfriend eb ma63am o weyaha wa7ed.. b3dain aroo7 wagoool ANA SHEFT FLANA WEYA WA7ED! wele gaylatla efaserha enaa akeeed 6al3aaa weya wa7ed as in wa7ed et7acheeh .. not knowing in realtiy that maybe that guy was her brotheR? ashya2 chethe! or another thing .. criticizing someone for something a person does.. but telgaha or telgah they are doing the same thing!! o when confronted .. egooloon ” la ana wath3ee ghair”
Ok look, hatha 3aib fena kilna .. No one left out, 7ata ana … U find urself talking about others, mumkin yebda bl khair bs sometimes it gets dragged to things they’ve done , aw said which arent so gr8 .. A7na hne, we can go 2 ways .. either criticize w go talk to the person themselves lw mu 3ajibna il shay,, aw just shut up .. Cuz honestly, talking and talking about what people do w every single move they make is gna make the person infront of us do the same thing, theyre gna be “hatha / hathi, shfeha ? wayd etti7acha 3an il awadim”
w About mis-understanding certain mawaqif w going on spreading the news like KUNA, hal person bl asas malah kha9 enna ma3a mno ana ga3id aw shga3d asawi, aw why .. etc…. U c something, just be quiet w move on ..
Basically, when sum1 talks bout a7ad thani, they brag bout themselves as if they dnt do most of the things they criticize
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kalamek sa7 .. i know enhum malhum sheghel .. i know enhum malhum dakhal and it isnt ANY of their business or RIGHT for that matter to even criticize. but THEY dont understand that. im not talking about harmless gossip. or talking about peoples fashion taste. or how horrible her hair looks. people are entitled to their own opinions. bes ako FARG lama i look down on someone that does a certain thing and giving my opinion about it. oo sa7 kalamek about the last part.
ANA: oo AHH! tawnee astaw3eb SWT ya3ni sub7anaho w ta3ala